These days that go the other way.
I think its time to face the fact that I may not be a knit blogger. A blogger, yes, and one who knits. But as a knitter I am too erratic for focus, too slow for glory and too self-taught for technical mastery. Not that I mind these things about myself, but they maybe sort of make the knit blogging designation a bit of an overly optimistic statement.
Though I did go out with a guy a few times - a complete knob, it proved -who when he read the blog said "there's an awful lot of wool in it, isn't there?" And I replied impatiently - yes, well, it's a knit blog [idiot]. (The 'idiot' was implied)
Anyway.
I've been reading a lot these days - I'm starting to fall in love with the writer's strike. At first no TV was really weird, kind of left a hole in the evening. Which was a piece of self-discovery I found very disturbing. And then I watched old episodes of things to fill in the gaps. And now, I'm just not turning it on, the tube. Or not much: I watch BBC news at 11 sometimes - I find non-American news soothing for its lack of breathless drama and acknowledgment that there is a world outside of this chunk of North America. Sometimes I catch the Colbert Report and Coupling re-runs on PBS. The Jane Austen marathon, also on PBS, is fantastic.
But I'm mostly reading again.
This is a small thing, you may say, but for me it is huge. I was the original bookworm, ruined my eyes reading under the covers by flashlight, spent the years from 1st grade to 23 or 4 pretty much carrying two books plus a spare in case I finished something out in the world and suffered a terrible word drought that might kill me before I returned to the safety of my book-lined burrow. But something happened - I worked in book retail for a couple of years and got so tired I stopped reading things that made me think, ever, and focused more on pure escapist literature. And then I got a job that left me even more tired and involved a bit of editing as well, and I pretty much divided my days between my desk and catatonia, and reading took another hit (this is when I discovered couch TV - the pure numbing power of home improvement shows and similar). And then my dad died 7 years ago and that finished me: I could not focus on other stories, I could not surrender to narrative. I couldn't get lost. I was much too raw to feel the pain, even the imaginary pain, maybe especially the imaginary pain, of others.
Somewhere after that it occurred to me to ask why I was trying to get lost in a book, rather than sucking it dry of inspiration, of education, of guidance. And I began to read the occasional biography. A book here and there. But slowly, and without that joyful surrender I remembered, that time stoppage. I missed it, but I no longer had the knack.
A few months ago I picked up some kind of escapist literature - a mystery? A romance? Which had continued to be the only kind of occasional fiction I could handle - and I couldn't finish it. Not because I couldn't give in to the story, but because it irritated me with bad logic and poor writing, shallow waters. After all this time, my critical faculties were stretching, blinking in the light. I backed away from the crap book and then spent a weekend collecting and organizing the books in my house. (I have a lot).
Since then I have carried books with me a little bit like I used to, reading some of them, not all though. Getting familiar again. Reading good things. Gaining momentum, but a weird kind of momentum that involves slowing down and having actual thoughts, actual feelings about what I'm reading. Taking it inside me and making it part of me. And I'm finding that I'm accumulating recommendations unconsciously again - a note here, a word there, the list grows. A giant box from Amazon arrived yesterday and I already finished one of the things inside. I'm really happy to feel a book in my hands again. I'm maybe just really happy.
To be me again. Something about the march of adult life and the shattering force of grief broke this thing I thought was central to my identity and I have missed it so much. So much. But it has come back different - tougher and more thoughtful. Better.
At one point I thought a lot about adding audio books to my day - but it is not the same. Not bad, but not the same. You can't trip and hesitate over a phrase, a word, go back and read again and think about it and go on, or skip something with your eyes, catch yourself and step back and wonder what made that paragraph miss for you. Read it again more slowly. Audio books do not enhance the silence, audio books are not a break from the onslaught, they don't enter your brain quietly through your hands and eyes. They can be great - the treadmill for one, is a wonderful place for being read to. But they are not reading, not for me.
We don't give each other enough time in this word (Update: should be WORLD. grr. Although....) Time to be silent, time to formulate thoughts, time to recover, time to grieve. We can be in such a hurry to get what We NeedNeedNeed that we steamroll over the nuance and delicacy that make our world complex and beautiful. We can be morons. Morons with ear buds and a personal soundtrack, morons with 24 hours of streaming video and 200 channels of loud. What exactly are we trying to drown out? Our own senses? Pain? Other people?


















